Monthly Archives: September 2011

Is It Okay To Fantasize About Someone Other Than Your Partner? (Guest Post)

Posted on September 30, 2011 by

Early this week, I ran across a blog post titled “Words that Warrant Immediate Dismissal.” This post detailed a woman who jokingly asked her man if he thinks about other women when they are sexually intimate. He responded honestly and … Continue reading →

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The Pitfalls that Come With Keeping Up With The Joneses

Posted on September 28, 2011 by

Dear Bartender, There are three newlyweds (including myself) at my job. One person told me another newlywed just bought a house. He asked me when would I be buying my first home? I politely informed him that I had already … Continue reading →

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Why the Coupledom of Black Men and White Women Sometimes Stings

Posted on September 27, 2011 by

A couple of weeks ago I was watching the T.O. Show and his publicists/sidekicks/friends, Mo and Kita talked about how T.O. prefers white or mixed women to black women.  During the show, Mo encourages Kita to participate in a bikini … Continue reading →

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Do I Tell My Friend That Her Husband Is Cheating? (Open Bar Letter)

Posted on September 26, 2011 by

Dear Bartender, At a restaurant a couple of weeks ago I saw my close friend’s husband with another woman. When he saw me he acted suspicious and attempted to hide which made me believe he was cheating. Since then, I’ve … Continue reading →

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To Be Married In City Hall or Not To Be Married At All (Open Bar Letter)

Posted on September 15, 2011 by

Dear Bartender, Should a woman marry a man who doesn’t want to give her a nice wedding? For instance, if I let [my fiancé] take me to city hall and be done with it [he would]. I know the wedding … Continue reading →

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