Tyrese Gibson was recently on Wendy Williams promoting his new book, How To Get Out of Your Own Way and he talked about a mindset that suggests domestic tasks that women do will NOT keep their men faithful! Well, well, well…it seems like this man needs to pay a visit to every grandmother below the Mason Dixon line and inform them that cooking (and everything else related to household duties) WON’T keep a man.
While knowing how to maintain a household is important, let’s be real, a man will wake up on the downy scented sheets that you’ve washed to eat the Paula Dean breakfast you’ve made and STILL walk out of the house and cheat on you. Why? The answer isn’t top secret. A man who cheats does so because he doesn’t care about the person he’s with enough to stay faithful. THAT’S IT!!! It’s not rocket science and it’s definitely not about your four-cheese lasagna. It is about emotions and feelings. While we don’t like to associate these characteristics with men (and they often don’t want to acknowledge they have emotions or feelings themselves), we have to recognize that men are not made of steal and they love just as hard (if not harder) than women do.
Cheating is a decision that an individual makes based on how they feel about remaining faithful to the person they are with. A woman can cook, clean, treat her man like a king and have sex with him 7 days a week and that man will still cheat. When she asks him why he cheated he’ll say, “I’m sick of your baked chicken; I found a dust bunny in the corner; you asked me about my day before I was ready to talk to you and you only yelled my name one time during sex this week.” While this may be an extreme example, the point is, you can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept.
So, while you may believe the adage that “a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, recognize that eventually that man will digest his food so you better have something else under your sleeve besides your mother’s mac ‘n cheese recipe.
Can you drink to that?